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Lost and Found....

Well, Easter was something else this year. My Aunt in Maine died suddenly, so the last two days were not very joyous. I spent it helping my mother find a florist shop in Maine and others helped her book a flight out Tuesday to go back for the funeral. Why does this always happen close to the holidays?

I went to my mother-in-laws house for Easter. She's been depressed, so I offered to bring most of the dinner over. We ate an hour late because nothing was going right, sheesh! The dinner turned out fine after all and I of course stuffed myself, haha.

My husband got called into work three times today to do an MRI. I don't understand why doctors order those on Holidays and Sundays. He missed dinner, and really most of the family get-together.

After dinner, everyone left and I stayed to talk with my mother-in-law. She was depressed and didn't want me to leave yet. While we were talking, my father-in-law wanted to take their dog for a walk. He has Alzheimer's and even though he's not in a bad stage, I didn't think it was a good idea. But, my mother-in-law told him to go ahead.

Well, 30 minutes later, I said.."Um, where does he go for his walks? He's been gone awhile"

She freaked, she didn't realize how long he'd been gone because we were talking. We went out looking for him. Nothing! I drove my car around the neighborhood...Nothing! On a hunch,I went back out in my car and drove to the park about 1/2 mile away. They usually go there one day a week with their dog.

There he was... sitting on this brick wall, looking confused. I walked up to him and said..."Hi John, what's going on?"

"Oh, hi. What brings you around these parts?"

"I was at the house (he'd forgotten) and we were just worried because you were gone so long, so I thought I'd come look for you."

" Well, I'm glad you did.. I couldn't figure out what I was suppose to do once I got here. Was Darlene meeting me here?"

"No, you were going for a walk around the block. But, that's alright, it's a nice night, you just wanted to walk a little further. Why don't you ride back with me in the car?"

Whew...

That was the most confused I'd ever seen him. He obviously can't be trusted to go for a walk by himself anymore.

What bothers me is that when I brought him home, his wife screamed at him..."What's wrong with you? Why would you go to the park and scare us half to death? Why can't I trust you anymore? Why do you do things like this, I'm so sick of it all!"

He looked at her and shrugged his shoulders. I felt so sorry for him. SHE is the one who should have known better. It's like she sets him up to fail.

I understand this is frustrating for her, I understand this has changed her whole life. I do understand and feel sorry for her. But, dang! It's not his fault.

Grrr... Enough of that. I'm just glad he was found, safe.

The good news?

I've got two awesome sons. I thank God everyday for them..:)

10:23 PM - 4/12/2009 - Postacomment

I'm so sorry about your aunt!

Man, ,what a rough holiday. How difficult is to have people we love begin to lose touch with things. My heart goes out to you with all of this happening right now.

*hug*

DeeJay - 9:57 AM - 4/13/2009

wow that was tough; i know on christmas morning my mom lost one of her friends, but i actually wasn't there; i was in new mexico with david's family

i hope things turn out better in future holidays, at least for you; i always seem to have bad luck, especially at christmas; i can't remember a non-disasterous christmas, lol.

twilightskies - 8:04 PM - 4/15/2009

Old Timers is rough. It really is.
Those doctors need their butts kicked.
My boyfriend's boss tried to make him work on Easter. What's up with that? Where did all the consideration go?

slayerbarbie - 8:06 AM - 4/16/2009

I know it's hard for Darlene, but man, he can't help it....he didn't ask for it....and I'm sure he hates it a million times more than she does. She needs to learn compassion, because that's what he needs more than anything right now.

lisalisabobisa - 10:47 PM - 4/16/2009

Deejay--Thank you.. She was just diagnosed with Lung cancer and within a week she was gone! It's amazing how fast it can happen..

LauriesAsylum - 9:43 AM - 4/18/2009

Karinsa--I hope this Christmas will be good for you, your bad streak has to be broken! ..:)

LauriesAsylum - 9:45 AM - 4/18/2009

Demetrius--It is, I'm taking vitamins now to ward off any memory problems when I get to that age. I think that would be the worst!

LauriesAsylum - 9:46 AM - 4/18/2009

Lisa--She's not handling it well at all..:( If you try to talk to her about it, she gets on the defensive, so it's useless.

LauriesAsylum - 9:47 AM - 4/18/2009